Growing up, Leena and I were pretty much perfect children (as seen to outsiders). We were the kids with the good grades who got all the trophies at the end of the year, prefects at school, teachers’ favourites, courteous to everyone, well mannered when visiting others..
Basically, all parents wanted their kids to be like us. And yet sometimes our parents would compare us to other children better than us. But here’s the thing: the perfect child will never exist, and by always telling your kid to be better and more like the next kid, it will only cause resentment between them.
Instead of comparing your child to others, encourage them to be the best version of themselves. Allow them to have their own voice instead of deciding everything for them. Let them be independent and learn from their mistakes and just be there for them.
Be the friend that they would want to confide in. Be the parent that they would come to for advice.
You can only have so much of control before you have to let go.
And then you simply have to guide where necessary and trust that they will do the right thing.
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